The Basic Moral Education manual
"Good morals protect us"The underlying principle taught within basic moral education is that when we express our good morals, we are much happier and have far fewer problems than we otherwise would. Having good morals always make us feel better than poor morals. Though occasionally we may get the impression that morality is something strict and repressive, in reality this is not true at all. It is poor morals which are confusing, repressive and cause problems.
Morals are not only evident in what we do, morals are also felt.
Morals are good feelingsIf someone has poor morals, it is because they chose to push away from good morals. Poor morals create confusion, unhappiness and inability. Sticking with your good morals keeps you happy, safe and strong. All people have a natural love of morals and desire for goodness. This manual is intended to be read slowly, with feelings. It is written
in a simple manner so anyone with a serious drug or alcohol problem
can easily be reminded of the goodness and love within us all.I. RESPECT
It is important to respect all people regardless of race, creed, or color. Having respect means remembering your good manners and being kind and considerate. If we do not respect others then many problems and headaches can result; friends may argue, youngsters may get aggressive and fight, and distrust results. With respect it is easier for us to develop real trust.
Having respect for people also means respecting the things they own. If we were to steal, then not only is this illegal, but it means we are not showing respect to the person who owns that item. If perhaps we see someone wearing clothes that we ourselves might not wear, we should still respect the fact that the person likes them, and we shouldnít say anything bad about those clothes. We have respect by not calling a person derogatory names or starting trouble.
Showing disrespect is pointless and foolish. It leads to resentment and arguments that profit no one. People who show disrespect usually do this because they don't respect themselves, which is almost always caused due to poor morals the person has been engaging in.
We show respect by not making derogatory comments about people. If someone is disrespectful then we really shouldn't associate too closely with that person. Doing so would cause problems and waste our time. Many problems result if a person lies and fails to respect other people.
We should always remember to respect people who are older than we are. Parents and grandparents have good advice because theyíve often experienced the same situations younger people may go through. Older people have developed wisdom and respect invaluable to everyone, especially younger people.
We should always honor our parents and grandparents. Good advice from our elder relatives always helps us to stick with goodness and love, so we can avoid difficulties.
To be honest is to be truthful and sincere. It is to refrain from saying things that are untrue. Honesty is valuable because it keeps real feelings of trust very strong. Being honest allows us to avoid difficulties in a good way that benefits everyone involved.
With honesty we can be more open and trusting with each other. Honesty creates greater laughter, merriment and joy for all of us. If we lied about things, we would not only find it harder to solve troubles, but we would experience more of them. What can start out as a simple lie often turns into a whole series of interconnected lies being told in an attempt to cover up the original lie. This can be very confusing, mostly to the person telling the lies.
People who consistently lie will find their mind becoming cluttered up with all sorts of untrue things. This will make it harder for them to remember things that are true and factual in general. This is why dishonesty always interferes with a personís ability to accomplish things.
People who lie and have other poor morals will always find it harder to use computers and hi technology properly. When someone moves with poor morals, he will be less able to create, design and build, no matter how much money or equipment he has. If a person does immoral things, especially if he tries to harm somebody, he will harm his own situation more than anyone else. With poor morals, complicated work is always hindered.
Being dishonest is not an illness. It is simply a bad habit. In fact, no illness or drug can ever make a person lie, have poor morals, or commit a crime.
It is always better for us to stick with honesty and good morals when we do things in life. By moving with good morals, being honest and kind, we are always happier, calmer and less confused about things in life. Honesty and goodness makes our friendships stronger. It allows us to easily create good humor, earn more money and have fun in life.
Having courage allows us to accomplish important things in life. To have courage is to remain honest and good when in a situation where it might seem easier to lie, steal or start trouble. To have courage is to protect people if a serious problem arises. It is to remain calm and sensible under any circumstances, and to always obey the law. Common sense and courage helps us resolve a difficulty in a good way that protects everyone involved.
We show moral courage by supporting our friends and family when they have problems. Having courage is to know that good morals always make us stronger and more capable than poor morals ever could. It is to understand that a person who harasses, commits a crime or harms someone actually harms his own situation more than anyone else. This is because he is the one doing the harassment. The harassment is coming from him. Therefore, the harassment is his. Itís not yours or mine. As long as we stay good ourselves, we have very little to worry about in life.
Trust is the foundation for all families and friendships. Trust inspires real friendships, more happiness and greater humor. With real trust we can understand each other better. We develop trust by being honest and kind, and by not harboring hatred or resentment towards anyone, including ourselves for mistakes we made in the past.
The most common cause for distrust is lying, where those individuals who hear the lie tend to distrust the person who told the lie. People then may wonder if the person is lying about other things as well. This is one way that dishonesty can cause problems, and this is why it's so important to be honest, even when talking about minor things.
If a person starts having poor morals, it is always by choice. No illness can ever cause poor morals, nor can any chemical or drugs. A person who rejects goodness, who begins lying or harassing people, who begins to consider depravity is okay, will always create distrust and will cause more problems for himself than anyone else.
It is important to not ridicule or mock on people because this can create distrust, it can start trouble, and it interferes with business being conducted. A person can rebuild trust by being kind, honest and forgiving again, but this takes time. So itís better not to break that trust by engaging in poor morals in the first place.
Compassion is a highly civilized feeling. Compassion is how we truly understand and sympathize with people. To have compassion is to feel sorry for another person if they are sick or have problems, that we are never happy to see anything bad happen to anyone. To show compassion might be to help a friend focus on what's good in life when they are feeling sad, to help them forget about problems, to focus on goodness.
If someone is sick or injured, we must realize that the person's body may be painful and uncomfortable, so we must be most compassionate with them.
To have dignity is to have composure, respect and to refrain from doing things which hurt people or cause problems. Being dignified is to understand that all people are good deep down inside. It is to be firm in our desire to protect love and kindness.
To have dignity is to conduct yourself in a way that instills honor and respect. It is also to mind your own business, knowing you are only responsible for what you do, not for what someone else does. A dignified person knows that superstition, resentment, and lying can cause confusion and waste time. Therefore, we forget about such things.
To be kind is to be thoughtful and sincere. It means to be understanding and forgiving, not to hold grudges. To have kindness is to be compassionate and helpful. It is to truly care about people. We show kindness by not being selfish or rude, by not interrupting someone while he or she is speaking.
Real kindness is to focus on doing good. Not to wish bad on others. Kindness is to not think of yourself all the time but to love others, to help others do well in life. Mutual respect and kindness is what real friendship is based on.
Kindness is to respect other people's feelings as well as your own. It is to know that all life is sacred and special, to know that all people have goodness inside of them, and that we must protect goodness.
Like compassion, sympathy is a highly civilized (non-violent) feeling. If we sympathize with someone having fun, we feel good ourselves too. In other words, instead of becoming jealous over what someone has or what someone is doing, we can have sympathy and share a little in the same happiness and enjoyment they feel. It's always better to teach our children to have sympathy and to cooperate with each other, rather than to become jealous and compete against each other.
If someone is sick then we must have sympathy, for we should realize ourselves how this must feel. We might offer to do something for that person they can't do themselves, to help them feel better.
It's important to remember that although an illness can make your body feel bad, it cannot make you feel like a bad person. No illness, drug or chemical can make a person break the law or commit a crime. To suggest otherwise would be incorrect grammar.
Forgiveness is one of the most prominent of morals and virtues. Forgiving someone does not mean we would allow ourselves to be taken advantage of, or that a person who did wrong would not still get in trouble. It just means we are not hateful, aggressive or resentful in any manner.
The reason why it's wiser to forgive is because when we are resentful, holding grudges or hating then we really do more to hurt ourselves than anything else. Hating and holding grudges creates unhealthy stress and doesn't make us feel too good.
It is also unwise for us to hold grudges against ourselves for mistakes we made in the past. We should of course realize what our mistakes were, so that we don't make them again, but we must also forgive ourselves and not dwell on problems of the past. Many mental problems result when a person dwells on problems and does not forgive and forget. To be carrying around grudges doesn't help things at all.
If someone causes a serious problem, itís often better for the person to admit they made a mistake and to apologize. The person admitting to the wrong should not hate himself or herself, nor dwell on the mistake, but should certainly learn by what occurred and not do it again. This is the sincerest way to resolve a personal problem, where the person doesnít try to blame their actions on someone else, on alcohol, drugs or illness.
Every person has to accept responsibility for what he or she has done. It's okay to admit you were wrong. Everyone makes mistakes in life sometimes, just that we learn by our mistakes so we donít make the same mistakes again. This is how people grow. We forgive people and move with goodness and love to make things better.
If somebody says or does something unkind, itís better to forgive the person and use common sense to settle things, instead of trying to get back at anyone or break the law. Because we forgive someone doesnít mean we have to continue associating with that person. It just means we do not harbor any grudges, hatred or resentment.
If we are ever attacked or harmed then we should certainly notify the police and seek legal counsel, but we need not become offensive or hateful. While animals often resort to aggression and violence when there are disputes, civilized people use common sense and forgiveness, and we obey the law.
One of the most common misunderstandings that occurs regarding morals is that one person may think itís okay to hate another person for having poor morals, yet this is wrong. In fact, the person who hates actually harms his own self more than anyone else. We should certainly avoid someone with poor morals, but we should not begin hating the person. Hatred is an animal emotion which we as civilized people have outgrown with forgiveness and common sense.
If we find ourselves hating someone, we do better by forgiving the person and forgetting about it. We do learn by mistakes of the past, but this doesnít mean we have to hate anyone. To carry around hatred is foolish. Hatred interferes with business, humor, and most everything in life. If someone is not learning by their own mistakes, and not learning from anyone else to the point where they donít correct themselves, then we are better off not associating with that person until they are trustworthy and have good morals.
A person who hates becomes weaker and less able to do things properly. Forgiveness and love makes a person stronger, happier, and better able to accomplish things.
Love is one of the most important feelings that people share. To be loving is to be compassionate and kind, to care about people and want to see people do well. It is to treasure and respect life. Love is to treat others as you would like to be treated yourself.
Love inspires the things we say and the things we do. Love inspires us to invent and build, to write beautiful music and sing songs, to create wonderful humor. Love includes respecting the thoughts and feelings of others, being honest, forgiving and more. Love is within us now, at this very moment.
Love is shared between friends, families and coworkers, and to a greater extent between husband and wife or two other devoted partners. Love can certainly be felt by both men and women equally. It is the feelings of love and kindness which make a man much more attractive to a woman than he ever could be by being rude and aggressive. Love and forgiveness helps us heal from mistakes of the past. Love, without any hatred at all, helps our bodies heal more quickly when we are injured or sick. This is a proven medical fact.
SEX AND LOVE
While sex is a very beautiful way for two people to share great love and affection, love usually doesn't include sex. Friends of different sexes can share great amounts of love and kindness without ever having sex with each other. A man can love a woman without any thought or desire of sexual love. By saying this, we don't mean he has to imagine she is unattractive or ugly. A man can certainly admire a womanís beauty without ever the thought of sexual love arising.
In the very same way, a woman can look upon a handsome man without ever the thought of sex, just that she loves him and admires his handsomeness. There is much more to love than merely how sexy a person is. What's more important is the person himself or herself.
Physical beauty and handsomeness, the shape of a woman's figure or the muscles on a man, these should all be taken into account slightly. Real love should be focused on the goodness of the person. If only sexiness is considered, then two people may become involved in a relationship based purely on sex, which may not work out very well.
Common causes for relationship problems are disrespect, being dishonest or rude, failure to treat a partner equally, and similar. These kinds of problems always result when people engage in poor morals. Low income can also put pressure on relationships, which is why itís important us to learn valuable skills so we can earn good income.
Sex is not something that one person does to another person, or gets from another person. Sex is something beautiful and special that is shared between two people who love each other.
It's better to look at everyone as a regular person and not to consider sex when looking at another person unless they like us in the same way. No matter how beautiful or handsome someone is, it's wise not to entertain sexual thoughts about someone without knowing and liking that person first, only if that person knows and likes you too in the same way. By understanding this, no man would ever consider rape. Lust doesn't make people feel good, love does. Anyone who constantly thinks about sex will become unhappy and confused.
The real pleasure of sex is not only the physically pleasurable feelings you feel, but also in giving pleasure to the other person as well. With trust, goodness and love we enjoy a sexual love with feelings that are incredibly wonderful; feelings that can hardly be described in words.
If a partner in a relationship wants to break up, the other person should never become jealous or possessive, nor engage in any kind of harassment. Partners must respect each other and accept the choices they make, without any hatred, jealousy or resentment.
One very beautiful part of sexual love is that a woman may become pregnant and give birth to a baby. While it is better for a woman to be married before she has children, we must always show great respect for a woman with children, even if she is not married. In fact, it is usually very hard on a woman to raise children by herself, so we should be especially kind and helpful to every mother with children.
Taking care of children is quite a job in itself, one that should be respected and revered to the utmost. Children are the most precious part of a family, they bring love and joy to a family like nothing else can.
As we know, humor is one of the best ways we share love and kindness. Humor is always funnier when we are honest and kind, not when we are rude or disrespectful in any manner. Sincere laughter inspires gladness and joy like nothing else can. It helps us to focus on love and goodness, to forget about problems of the past. Sincere laughter always makes us feel better when we are sick or injured.
Good humor actually makes us healthier. Honest laughter can even help our bodies heal up from injury and sickness quicker. Honest crying also works in the same rejuvenating manner. This is a proven medical fact. When a person honestly cries or laughs good and hard, the body creates special enzymes that have amazing healing capabilities. These enzymes cannot be reproduced artificially or sold in pill form. They can only be produced within a personís body through genuine laughter or honest crying.
Humor which is based upon another person being attacked or put down is not very funny. When people harass others or make derogatory remarks about people they really are putting themselves down. Good humor usually disappears because of dishonesty, rudeness or the holding of grudges. What can happen when people are dishonest is that distrust arises, which puts a damper on good humor. The ability to create good humor requires a person to be honest and trustworthy, kind and forgiving.
If we come across a person who is rude and has other poor morals we mustn't associate too closely with that person. We should also feel sorry for that person a little.
Good humor comes from a love within, a love towards all. It comes from a desire to see other people happy, not from seeing other people unhappy.
If good humor has disappeared within a relationship, we can regain it by being kind, forgiving, and compassionate again, and we must not dwell on problems of the past, for this is a waste of time. While it usually takes time to rebuild the genuine trust needed for truly good humor to return, it is certainly worth the wait.
To be humble is to be modest and sincere. It is to make sure we do not make someone feel low or belittled in any manner. We feel better when we are kind and helpful, not when we are trying to put someone down.
To be proud, boastful or spiteful usually creates animosity, resentment and jealousy more than anything else, which is why it's better to forget about such things. Being humble does not mean we would stop accomplishing things that other people cannot accomplish. It just means that we do not look down on anyone. We want to see everyone do well in life and be happy and successful.
To be humble is to be innocent, to not consider yourself as being so much better or so much worse than anyone else. To be humble is to avoid competing against someone spitefully, merely to put them down. Certainly you may be better at doing one thing or another than someone else, but we all have various interests and abilities that make us different. These differences do not mean that one person is a better person than another person.
Many women are much better at creating meals and taking care of children than men are, but it would be incorrect grammar to make the statement "Women are better than men" for this would be an incomplete sentence. It would be more proper to say "Women are better at taking care of children than men", or "Men are better at building things than women", but this wouldn't mean men are better than women, or women are better than men. All people are equal under the law.
Whenever we spend our money, we should remember we are helping the person or business who receives our money. So it's good to purchase things from people we know have good morals. Money helps them stay in business and expand. If we spend money in places where people have poor morals, we are denying that money from good people who deserve our financial support more.
Many serious problems arise if we forget the importance of money. This can result in debts accumulating which then causes poverty, arguments and disputes. We can avoid this by studying wisdom teachings and valuable moneymaking skills, and by always sticking with good morals.
Though we sometimes may work with people who are rude, nonetheless we should still have manners ourselves and treat everyone with respect. While at work it is wise to listen to the people in charge.
At work, our personal likes and dislikes should be taken into account secondly, with the main focus on doing our job properly. When we get paid we must remember to save our money and not to spend it on wasteful, trivial things. Money is very important in life.
Certain problems can result if we focus too much on just getting money. People may engage in illegal activities to get money wrongfully. Or, a person may focus so much of his or her attention on money that they forsake genuine kindness and love, often to the point where they become unhappy and discontent. Jealousy and greed usually cause a person to lose their sense of humor, at least for a while until they regain their compassion and good morals again.
The way to avoid greed is to not pursue money to the extent where a person pushes aside love and kindness, friends and family. On the contrary, money should be used to help our friends and family. As our wealth grows we will find money is can help us insure and prolong kindness and love.
Having good morals and abiding by the rules and laws which have been established enables us all to have more happiness and enjoyment than we could possibly have without them. All of the laws in our country are based upon good morals. One of our main rights is Freedom of Speech. This allows us to speak about any topic we like without fear of being incarcerated, as long as we do not threaten to harm anyone or commit defamation of character. If a person breaks the law then they either donít have good morals, or are not using common sense.
Some people may forget this, but it can be illegal to lie. This is especially true when running a business, when speaking to a policeman, or when testifying in court. If a lie is told in court this is legally called perjury, which has penalties that include jail and fines.
If a lie is told to a policeman this is considered making false statements, which also has penalties that include jail and fines. If a lie is told while business is being conducted, this may be called fraud, where penalties can include jail and confiscation of assets to pay back any money wrongfully taken.
Civil law suits are used as a means for people to settle disputes without becoming aggressive or violent. If someone takes something from us or harms us physically, then the civilized way to solve the problem is to sue that person or company in civil court, rather than to become aggressive and violent as animals do.
It is important to know that the use of violence always creates more problems than it can ever possibly solve. Violence is basically aggression and hostility; amoral acts which are uncivilized and vulgar. A person who is violent and hateful is actually weaker and less able to do things than a person who is kind, loving and honest.
Immorality hinders a personís ability to accomplish things. Someone who lies and tries to harm people will always find it harder to accomplish things because immorality interferes with the person engaging in poor morals. It interferes with happiness, creativity, clear thinking, calmness and so many other things.
If a person harasses or tries to harm someone, the person doing the harassing always harms his own situation more than anyone else. This is because he is the one doing it. The harassment is his. Not mine or yours. As long as we stay good ourselves, we have very little to worry about.
A harasser can recover from the harm he has been doing to himself, but he must first stop. It will take time for him to heal up from the damage he has been doing to himself, but itís worth it. In order for him to recover, he must get back into good morals and move with real goodness, honesty, and love for all people. Basic good morals allow us to accomplish most anything we set out to do.
This is what makes us civilized: that we care about others less fortunate than ourselves, that we protect the weak and help the sick to get better, and that we hate no one.
Plainly put, we do much better when we realize that all people have a natural love of morals and desire for goodness, and that when we work together with love, we always have much more fun in life.
We need only to forgive people and use common sense to be able to forget hatred and aggression entirely.
Courage = bravery, fortitude, spirit, gallantry.
Respect = admiration, consideration, esteem, regard.
Honesty = honor, integrity, fidelity, sincerity.
Trust = confidence, faith, care, belief.
Compassion = sympathy, grace, charity, mercy.
Dignity = stateliness, reserve, composure, honor.
Kindness = thoughtfulness, consideration, generosity.
Sympathy = compassion, support, approval.
Forgiveness = grace, mercy, understanding.
Love = admiration, charity, kindness, respect.
Humor = joke, amusement, wit, comedy.
Humility = modesty, innocence, humbleness.
Money = currency, funds, wealth.
Laws = rules, statutes, principles, constitution.
Violence = chaos, disorder, brutality, savagery.
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